Resources

The following resources are designed to help you explore options, prepare for mediation, collaborative law, or constructive negotiation, and prepare yourself and your family to move forward as you make the transition from divorce.

Articles

• "Divorce Mediation: A Tool For Empowerment" by Dr. Lynne C. Halem, DivorceSource.com
• "How to Propose Mediation to Your Spouse" by Carolina Divorce Mediators, LLC, DivorceSource.com
• "The Friendly Divorce" by Annie Finnigan, Family Circle
• "Getting a Divorce? Why It Pays to Play Nice" by Carla Fried, Money Magazine
• "A New Approach to an Old Problem: Collaborative Law" by Linda Piff, NJ Family Lawyer
• "People first, then money, then things - money never comes first" by Suze Orman, Oprah
• "Happy Divorces" by Aleksandra Todorova, Smart Money
• "Separate Peace" by Stephanie Coontz, The Wall Street Journal
• "Many Couples Collaborating on Kinder Divorces" by David Crary, Associated Press
• "For Gay Couples, 'Traditional' Divorce Isn't Always an Option" by Tara Siegel Bernard, The New York Times
• "Seven Tips for Dissolving Gay Unions" by Tara Siegel Bernard, The New York Times
• "Money Talks to Have Before Marriage" by Ron Lieber, The New York Times
• "Top Ten Ways to Protect Your Kids from the Fallout of a High Conflict Break-up" by Dr. Joan Kelly, Bountiful Films
• "Financial Decisions to Make as You Divorce" by Ron Lieber, The New York Times
• "Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce" by Sam Margulies, Psychology Today
• "Co-Parenting After Divorce" by Sam Margulies, Psychology Today
• "Helping your kids cope with the effects of separation and divorce" HelpGuide.org

Suggested Reading

About Divorce

1. Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life, Sam Margulies
2. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher
3. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Abigail Trafford
4. Must We Say We Did Not Love? The Need for Divorce Rituals in Our Time, Monza Naff, Ph.D.

About Collaborative Law

1. The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method That Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids – Without Going to Court, Stuart G. Webb and Ron Ousky
2. Divorce – A Problem to be Solved, Not a Battle to be Fought, Karen Fagerstrom, Ph.D.
3. Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues , and Move On With Your Life, Pauline Tesler & Peggy Thompson

For and About Children

1. Two Homes, Claire Masurel
2. Dinosaurs Divorce, Marc Brown
3. It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, Vicki Lansky
4. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child, Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
5. We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce, Constance Ahrons, Ph.D.
6. Children's Bill of Rights

Information

• Compare Mediation and CL
• Paradigm Shift
• Participation Agreement
• Forget Harmony
• Ground Rules for CL Clients
• Is CL for Me?
• Post Divorce Checklist