Resources

The following resources are designed to help you explore options, prepare for mediation, collaborative law, or constructive negotiation, and prepare yourself and your family to move forward as you make the transition from divorce.

Articles

• Family Circle
• Money Magazine
• NJ Family Lawyer
• Oprah
• Smart Money
• Wall Street Journal
• Associated Press

Suggested Reading

About Divorce

1. Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life, Sam Margulies
2. Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, Bruce Fisher
3. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Abigail Trafford
4. Must We Say We Did Not Love? The Need for Divorce Rituals in Our Time, Monza Naff, Ph.D.

About Collaborative Law

1. The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method That Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids – Without Going to Court, Stuart G. Webb and Ron Ousky
2. Divorce – A Problem to be Solved, Not a Battle to be Fought, Karen Fagerstrom, Ph.D.
3. Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues , and Move On With Your Life, Pauline Tesler & Peggy Thompson

For and About Children

1. Two Homes, Claire Masurel
2. Dinosaurs Divorce, Marc Brown
3. It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, Vicki Lansky
4. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child, Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.
5. We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce, Constance Ahrons, Ph.D.
6. Children's Bill of Rights

Negotiation and Communication

1. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, Roger Fisher, William L. Ury & Bruce Patton
2. Beyond Reason:  Using Emotions as You Negotiate, Roger Fisher and Daniel Shapiro
3. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking when Stakes Are High, Kerry Patterson, et al.
4. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, Douglas Stone, et al.
5. Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication, Sharon Strand Ellison

Information

• Compare Mediation and CL
• Paradigm Shift
• Participation Agreement
• Forget Harmony
• Ground Rules for CL Clients
• Is CL for Me?